I just finished a book club on filling buckets. When I started this book club, I honestly thought it was about how much you do, but it’s actually a method that people use to be happier and make others happy. So of course, I wanted to share this amazing, fantastic thing with you!! First, I want to share with you what bucket filling is. In the book we read, they explained that everyone has an invisible bucket and an invisible dipper. Our bucket is always emptied or filled depending on our interactions with others. The dipper is used to fill or take away from buckets. A full bucket is happy and productive where an empty bucket is down and deflated. As humans and as friends we can fill buckets and allow our buckets to be filled to lead towards a happier life.
Did you know that just by being happy, your life can be lengthened by 10 years? Happiness and positive emotions have a much greater impact on lives than people give credit for. Often times people don’t know where to start to find happiness and this is part of the reason, I am writing this blog! There are so many different moments in our lives and so many moments that can be positive rather than negative. We are supposed to have 5 positive interactions for every 1 negative interaction. That doesn’t allow a lot of room for negativity, but it does allow some because we are humans can’t realistically be happy all of the time.
To be happier and increase emotions both in your life and in others it is important to fill other’s buckets. Anything from smiling at someone as you walk by to starting a conversation with a new neighbor can fill buckets. The one thing to remember though is that everyone is an individual person and they may have their bucket filled a different way than you! Bucket filling isn’t a one-size fits all. It’s unique! Someone may like to have a big party celebrating an accomplish where another person would rather have a small card and a treat. Even though there is a huge difference in size from these things, it could fill someone’s bucket the same way with how their person is.
As you go through your day think about whether or not you are adding to or taking away from other people’s buckets. By filling one bucket, you could create a chain of events that allows other people to start to fill buckets. Even the people you spend the most time with need their buckets filled. Friendships are unlikely to survive without this small method of happiness. Tell your friend, your sister, or your dad what you appreciate about them and do it with joy. Even though you think they know you love them, it doesn’t hurt to say it out loud. Every moment matters and by spreading drops or “pieces” of happiness you can fill buckets and bring happiness to everyone you know. Slowly your bucket will start to naturally overflow into other buckets and you can spread happiness with your life too.