When is the last time you really had me time? And I don’t mean the last time you stood in the shower just thinking about what you have to do or when you laid in bed just a little bit longer to get that quiet sleep you missed out on last night or if you’re a Christian, not just when you did your devotions? I mean when is the last time you just sat down. Like there was nothing around you, no phone, no work, no people and it was just you for at least an hour. Can you even remember that long ago?
Me time is surprisingly one of the things that can make you the happiest person alive. Being around people 24/7 will make it difficult to remain happy and enjoy the little things in life. Me time is actually something we should do every day for at least an hour. It is necessary for our brains to process what we’ve learned throughout the day. Although, if your schedule is anywhere near as busy as mine, I’m sure you’re thinking that a whole hour is nearly impossible. It’s not though if you make time for you! YOU are so important and if you don’t give yourself those times, you will wear yourself down and being happy is going to be really hard… believe me.
Even though me time is so important it isn’t just something you can plan into your schedule right away every day for forever (I mean if you are, please tell me how you do it!!) Start off small. Maybe do an hour a week or 5-10 minutes a day. Eventually you can work yourself up to that full hour every day and most likely you’ll look forward to it. Big goals are accomplished doing little things. If you go into your day thinking you can do everything you missed last week and everything you hope to do this week AND add an hour of me time every day, I hate to break it to you but that probably won’t happen. But that’s okay!! It’s not supposed to happen like that which is why we can reward ourselves and refuel during me time.
With that being said, there is a healthy amount of me time. An hour to two hours a day is all you should need depending on you. You don’t want to overdo it and make sure you still have time where you talk to your friends and share your feelings with others.
Now, if you’re an extrovert you might be thinking “well I get my energy from people, so I don’t need this so called me time.” In some cases that could be true, you might not need as much but if anyone has ever met me, they would know that I am an extrovert and living off of no me time for too long is not the best thing in the world. Two years ago, I would have told you that I don’t need me time (no matter how much my mom told me) and I would make plans every weekend, some weeknights as I got older. I would book myself up for weeks to the point where my one friend always said she’d like to be put on my schedule to hang out and I would have to say “Sure! How is 3 weeks from now?” I’ll tell you first-hand that is not the way to do it. When I needed that break it wasn’t there and I had to keep going, making my time with friends less enjoyable.
Since college I’ve had some me times, but with a full year of college, a full summer of work and another full semester of college again it slipped my mind of how important this me time is. I ended up taking “me half week” this week and have been refueled to a whole new level. Me time doesn’t necessarily mean not doing anything at all, you can read a book, go on your computer, dance to a song in your room by yourself, or play with your cat, but the important thing to remember is its ME time and you can’t do that with anyone else.
If you’re feeling tired and exhausted or even you just haven’t had any downtime lately, you might need some me time. Give it a try, 5 minutes a day or 1 hour a week. You might be surprised with what me time can do for you and your happiness.